"Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you" (Ephesians 4:32 NIV)
Fellowship without forgiveness is impossible.
We're called "to settle our relationships with each other " (2 Corinthians 5:18) We need to consistently forgive others and receive forgiveness from other,or we"ll give up in despair
Whenever we're hurt by someone, we have a choice to make : Will we focus on retaliation or resolution ?
In God's economy, t's not enough to say we won't seek revenge ; we're to press into the very heart of forgiveness, forgiving each other, just as Christ forgave us.
Bitterness and unforgeveness are a cancer that eventually will destroy you from the inside out. Forgiveness is the scalpel tha remove the tumor.
This doesn't mean you will always be able to immediately forgive and be done with it. As you become more and more Chirst-like, that will become possible, but for now you may have to work at forgiving someone who has hurt you in particularly painful way. In other words, you may forgive this person but soon begin to feel root of unforgiveness growing in your heart.
When this occurs, you can go to Jesus and ask Him to help you with this cycle. He will help you release the ofender and the Holy Spirit will guide you in your effort.
A major point here is that forgiveness is a choice you can make. The power of God, working within you, means you no longer have to remain a slave to unforgineveness or bitterness.
What now ?
When you forgive, you're not pretending it didn't hurt. Forgivenss means you no longer hold the offense against the offender. It means you'e pardoned the debt, and you've intentionally chosen to release the one who hurt you.
Stop right now and talk to God. Have an honest conversation with God about someone you need to forgive. Our heavenly Father knows that is not easy to let go of our hurts, but he will give you the grace to forgive.
Be honest with God. Cry out to God; tell him exactly how you feel. He won't be surprised or upset by your anger, hurt, insecurity or bitterness